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		<description><![CDATA[Do you think Indians in general have a sense of humour?
Our culture is full of stories the witty person - think Tenalirama, Gopal Bhand, or Birbal. The theater forms have all had the comic as an integral part of the story. Indian cinema - Hindi as well as other Regional language cinema has also seen development of humor. Hence in a country of a billion people there is a healthy percentage of people who relish different shades of it. Humor is very situation specific and context specific. What you find funny as a ten year old may not be so when you are older. Some humor is specific to a region or social class. Each language has its own notion of humor as does each class of society. The breadth of humor one appreciates is a by product of the extent of exposure one has had to people who are different. As Indians have become more confident, we have learnt to laugh at ourselves. Only someone who is secure within can laugh at himself or herself. Self deprecating humor is reflective of a self assured person. I believe economic prosperity and exposure to a global environment have expanded the variety of jokes we laugh at today. You see more comedy shows on TV than we did a few years back. Youtube and the Net has given us access to more brands and flavors of humor. So as a country we are discovering the joys of a global fare.]]></description>
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<p><a title="Subject of the joke by mediocre2008, on Flickr" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/29537061@N05/4880759291/"><img src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4141/4880759291_5f5c1d56fd_m.jpg" alt="Subject of the joke" width="291" height="195" /></a>Our culture is full of stories the witty person &#8211; think Tenalirama, Gopal Bhand, or Birbal. The theater forms have all had the comic as an integral part of the story. Indian cinema &#8211; Hindi as well as other Regional language cinema have seen many shades of humor.  As Indians have become more confident, we have learnt to laugh at ourselves. Only someone who is secure within can laugh at himself or herself. Self deprecating humor is reflective of a self assured person. That confidence for some comes because of prosperity. For some even strife leads to its own variety of dark humor. I believe economic prosperity and exposure to a global environment have expanded the variety of jokes we Indians laugh at today. You see more comedy shows on TV than we did a few years back. Youtube and the Net has given us access to more brands and flavors of humor. So as a country we are discovering the joys of a global fare.<span id="more-883"></span></p>
<p><strong>Malavika Velayanikal of  <a title="See page 7 of the DNA" href="http://epaper.dnaindia.com/dnabangalore/epapermain.aspx?queryed=20&amp;eddate=8/8/2010">DNA</a> </strong>newspaper<strong> </strong>spoke to couple of us on the question &#8220;Do Indians Have a Sense of Humor?&#8221; Here is the interview reproduced with her permission.</p>
<blockquote><p>Let&#8217;s admit it. As Indians, we aren&#8217;t really famous for our sense of  humor. It is a rather serious business, which, alas, we haven&#8217;t  mastered. Not yet, at least. We reserve our peals of laughter for the  jokes on &#8216;them&#8217;. And the &#8216;them&#8217;, obviously is Tamilian if you are  Punjabi, Sikh if you are Malayali, or Nepali if you are Bengali. The pot  of trouble is on high flame if the joke&#8217;s on &#8216;us&#8217;. For us Indians,  humor is a vexing issue.</p>
<p>It could be because we are a very religious  country. At least, <strong>Osho</strong> thought so: &#8220;For centuries sad people have  dominated religion. They have expelled laughter – from the churches,  from the mosques, from the temples….&#8221; To him, seriousness was a disease  that has been praised, respected and honored; and Indians, &#8220;are serious  people&#8221; – very religious, very holy.<br />
Forbidden and dangerous  territory as it is, a few brave men and women do test the waters. The  ambitious ones tread on toes, and are quickly slain. The less smart ones  are flayed. The perfect ones, survive.<br />
Comedies are galore on  television. Many are ghastly, but the pleasing TRP ratings have ensured  more converts. Filmmakers are on to it too. So are stand-up comedians.</p>
<p>Author of bestseller <em>Mediocre But Arrogant</em>, <strong>Abhijit Bhaduri</strong>, feels we  have learned to laugh at ourselves, as Indians have become more  confident. &#8220;Only someone who is secure within can laugh at himself. Self  deprecating humor is reflective of a self-assured person. I believe  economic prosperity and exposure to a global environment has expanded  the variety of jokes we laugh at today. So as a country we are  discovering the joys of a global fare.&#8221;</p>
<p>While some believe humor has just arrived there are many who have been dabbling with it for years.<br />
Of  course, we have a sense of humor and a resilient one, argues <strong>Mahesh  Ramchandani</strong>, a freelance writer for television, who has scripted several  of the <em>Movers and Shakers</em> episodes. &#8220;In spite of all that the  politicians have done to us and to this country, we still manage to  laugh. I think everyone has a sense of humor, including Suresh Kalmadi,  although you won&#8217;t see him laughing too much these days,&#8221; he says.</p>
<p>Swedish  writer<strong> Zac O&#8217;Yeah</strong>, whose latest book, <em>Once Upon a Time in  Scandinavistan</em>, an international bestseller, has always peppered his  crime thrillers with humor.  After living in India for over a decade,  he sometimes feels there&#8217;s more humor in India than in most other  countries in the world. &#8220;I think perhaps the unique thing is that we who  live in India often straddle multiple cultures at the same time.  Somebody can be Bengali by birth, but grow up and live their life in  Bangalore, and also be completely fluent in English. My belief is that  the more complex your own cultural situation is, with a variety of  influences from different sources, the easier it is for you to  appreciate the comedy of life.&#8221;<br />
We obviously knew how to laugh at  ourselves in the past, says<strong> Reena I Puri</strong>, editor of the <em>Amar Chitra  Katha </em>series. &#8220;Indian folktales are full of amazing humour. Look at  Tenali Raman, Gopal Bhand or Birbal.&#8221; She believes that Indian  television humour has a long way to go, but &#8220;if I think of some of  Hrishikesh Mukherjee&#8217;s movies with Amol Palekar or Utpal Dutt, they were  simply great.&#8221;</p>
<p>For O&#8217;Yeah, the classic humor exemplified by RK  Narayan or the naughty humor in Bankim Chandra Chatterjee&#8217;s Kamalakanta  are the highest ideals – both quite advanced for their time. He enjoys  an occasional standup comedy performance &#8220;by intelligent comedians like  Aporup Acharya, for instance&#8221;.</p>
<p>But playing with wit, and escaping  unscathed is rather tricky. Shashi Tharoor tweaked Mahabharata – almost  as holy as it could get – married it to history, recast it with politics  and won worldwide applause. But one stray tweet on holy cows and  cattle-class had him reprimanded instantly, and retreating in haste. So  writers like Ramchandani are doubly careful. How far one can push the  envelope is a tough call.</p>
<p>&#8220;One has to weigh one&#8217;s words all the time  because what is permissible today was offensive yesterday and what is  taboo today will become permissible tomorrow,&#8221; he says. No television  producer wants to lose a TV show and so they keep a close watch on their  writers and keep showing us pictures of starving people in poor  countries; this motivates us to self-censor, he says, jokingly.</p>
<p>The  moral police used to be the only police to watch out for earlier, but  now we also have the politically correct (PC) police watching over us,  Ramchandani says. &#8220;While the moral police gets offended if we take a  potshot at their sacred cows such as god, religion, and so on, the PC  has their own sacred cows and so, for example, at one time you couldn&#8217;t  get a pro-gay piece into the media, now you can&#8217;t get a non-pro-gay  piece in because the &#8216;liberal&#8217; Taliban is watching. Some will say that  is a good thing, which is exactly how the moral police defends itself,&#8221;  he says.</p>
<p>&#8220;My humor is a survival kind of one,&#8221; says writer <strong>Shinie  Antony</strong>. &#8220;I wanted to be a comedian when I grew up – partly because my  report cards were a joke.&#8221; All her books and writings are humourous, but  her wit, she says is very self deprecatory. &#8220;There is a thin line  between offending someone and being funny, which I have never crossed,&#8221;  she says.<br />
So says O&#8217;Yeah: &#8220;Even if as a novelist I prefer a comic  genre, my writing isn&#8217;t about having fun at some particular person&#8217;s [or  a community's] expense.&#8221; He enjoys &#8220;a fairly gentle type of generic  humour and which is mostly actually targeting myself [if it targets  anything at all] or my own preconceived notions, or my own stupidity. In  fact, I would like to claim that my humour is almost of the  philosophical kind, but if I said that probably the community of  philosophers would burn my effigy.&#8221; That was a joke, by the way, he  quickly adds.<br />
Politics seems like the favourite fodder of television  humour. There is much entertainment in it, and on live Parliament  debates, our politicians perform better than most comedians do. Laloo  Yadav, Mayawati, Sonia Gandhi, Manmohan Singh, and Mamata Banerjee top  the charts for chiding comedians. But political sensibilities are also  quick to hurt, and the &#8216;party&#8217; often cracks down on the artiste as well  as his subjects.</p>
<p>Once, a television show that Ramchandani was working  on made some nasty jokes about gangsters. He recalls receiving  anonymous calls telling them to take it easy. &#8220;We&#8217;re particularly  careful not to offend the feelings of gangsters and terrorists, because  they are very sensitive people and also own guns, certain politicians  who will remain unnamed and George Bush – because a channel, which will  remain unnamed, that was airing one of our shows had given us clear  instructions that we were not to make any jokes about George Bush. No  kidding!&#8221; he says.</p>
<p>Bhaduri too has ruffled several feathers with his  wit. If you are a good humor writer, you would most certainly offend  someone who is the butt of the jokes, he says. &#8220;One of the Professors of  Mathematics at XLRI had told me I had caricatured him unfairly in  <em>Mediocre But Arrogant</em>. A short story about the futility of New Year&#8217;s  resolutions drew the flak of an erstwhile colleague who claimed that the  work-shirking, scheming person in the story was modeled on him. At the  alumni meet of XLRI last December, a classmate came up and said that the  character of Ayesha in <em>Married But Available</em> was modeled on her and  that she didn&#8217;t quite like that.&#8221;</p>
<p>The cultural elite of the country,  after chuckling through hours of Seinfield, Monty Python and Woody  Allen, are now sampling the slew of stand-up comedy shows live in the  city. Bangalore, Mumbai and Delhi often get to enjoy live performances  by American, British and Australian comedians. The recent Russell  Peters&#8217; show in the city was sold out every day. Local comedians like  Vir Das and Ruby Chakraborty are popular as well.</p>
<p>We could argue on  the cultural divide of humor in India for hours, and get nowhere. A  sense of humor is, after all, a very personal thing. &#8220;That&#8217;s why it&#8217;s  called &#8216;a sense&#8217;, I suppose,&#8221; says O&#8217;Yeah. It will differ between  different people depending on social class, cultural background and so  on, he adds.</p>
<p>Everybody has a sense of humour. Only the degree of it  varies, feels Shinie Antony. To her, humour is an essential defence  mechanism of the mind. &#8220;How you cope with a situation without losing  your sanity.&#8221; And laughter is addictive. &#8220;It is like applause,&#8221; she  says. &#8220;But humorists must learn where to stop with the jokes.&#8221;<br />
In  their quest for chuckles, comics could get carried away. After all, only  blurred lines demarcate the boundaries between humor, flippancy and  offence. So, funnymen, beware, when you go searching for that funny  bone.</p></blockquote>
<p>What do you think? Do economically prosperous nations produce more variety of humor? Do people who laugh at themselves make better colleagues?</p>
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		<title>Corporate Novels: Mixing Business with Pleasure</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mr R Gopalakrishnan of the Tata Group recently did this story on Corporate Novels for the Economic Times. The article is a great recall of all the "Corporate Novels" that have been written in recent times.  In this story called Mixing Business With Pleasure, they have traced authors from corporate India who have penned their novels with stories that somewhere resonate with their experiences.  While it is fiction, almost all of them have perhaps been triggered off by some incident or character(s) they have encountered for real. This probably is the formula for realistic fiction that the readers have appreciated generously as well as the sales figures of all these novels will vouch for.  I feel honored that Mr Gopalakrishnan is aware of my novels - but I will feel better if I know that he read them as well. Do you think he has?]]></description>
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<p><img class="alignleft" style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 3px; float: left;" src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3522/3315484272_67bb6332c6_m.jpg" alt="economic times@abhijitbhaduri.com" width="240" height="28" />Mr R Gopalakrishnan of the Tata Group<strong> </strong>recently did this story on Corporate Novels for the Economic Times. The article is a great recall of all the &#8220;Corporate Novels&#8221; that have been written in recent times.  In this story called <a title="Corporate Novels Mixing Business With Pleasure" href="http://m.economictimes.com/PDAET/articleshow/msid-4201919,curpg-3.cms" target="_blank"><strong>Mixing Business With Pleasure</strong></a>, they have traced authors from corporate India who have penned their novels with stories that somewhere resonate with their experiences.  While it is fiction, almost all of them have perhaps been triggered off by some incident or character(s) they have encountered for real. This probably is the formula for realistic fiction that the readers have appreciated generously as well as the sales figures of all these novels will vouch for.  I feel honored that Mr Gopalakrishnan is aware of my novels &#8211; but I will feel better if I know that he read them as well.</p>
<p>Only one correction &#8211; in my case the article mentions my previous employer and designation.  I currently work for <a title="Wipro Blog" href="http://www.blog.wipro.com/author/abhijit_bhaduri/" target="_blank"><strong>Wipro Ltd</strong></a> as the group&#8217;s  Chief Learning Officer. Over to the actual article.<span id="more-770"></span></p>
<blockquote><p>Advertising and cricket come together with a bang in <strong>Anuja Chauhan</strong>’s novel, with <strong>The Zoya</strong> <strong>Factor </strong>launching into a romance with a cricket captain who sounds suspiciously like Dhoni. In the six months since its release, the 500-page book has sold over 20,000 copies and the film rights have been bought by Shah Rukh Khan’s Red Chilli Entertainment.</p>
<p>Chauhan, who is from Meerut and graduated from Miranda House, is now working on her next novel, which is about ‘a small town girl who comes to the city.’ “Advertising is very limiting, with its 30 second restrictions. The best thing about writing fiction is that there are no limits,” says Chauhan.</p>
<p>The creative side of advertising has always tended to produce novelists, script writers and lyricists. Some hold on to their jobs, like Chauhan, while others move out. “People who join the profession are those who want to express themselves in some way,” says <strong>Jaideep Varma</strong>, who quit advertising after 12 years to become a full-time writer. “But then they realise that advertising is not going to lead to any kind of self expression. That’s why you find so many ad professionals moving into other creative areas.”</p>
<p>In <strong>Local</strong>, Varma’s debut novel, the hero is a fresher in a Mumbai ad agency who sleeps in local trains after work — an interesting idea which, alas, doesn’t actually work. The parts set in the ad agency, however , work quite well, which proves that it helps to have some experience of what you’re writing about.<br />
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Abhijit Bhaduri</strong> , Human Resources (HR) director of Microsoft India, has chosen to spin his novels around the HR profession rather than any particular industry. A graduate of XLRI, Bhaduri set his first novel, <strong>Mediocre But Arrogant</strong>, in the ‘Management Institute of Jamshedpur’ , from where his hero graduates to land his first job in HR.</p>
<p>His second book, <strong>Married But Available</strong> is about the protagonist’s early years in Balwanpur Industries, an Indian company that’s been taken over by a multinational. The book is sprinkled with HR gyan and Bhaduri, who has worked with Tata Steel, Colgate and Pepsico, says it gives his characters credibility: “The professional and personal lives of my characters aren’t separate, they’re wholly meshed.”</p>
<p>One of the biggest selling Indian novels of all time is <strong>Anurag Mathur</strong>’s <strong>The Inscrutable Americans</strong>, written at the fag end of the license raj, when the middle class Indian dream was to immigrate to the USA. Utkarsh Rai, managing director of Infinera India, published a collection of Hindi short stories titled Reteela Safar after returning to the country ten years ago. “It was a theme people could relate to in those days,” he says. “Now the focus has shifted to Indians in India rather than Indians abroad.”</p>
<p>The big fans of the corporate novel today are Indians who are not into serious literature. They once had to look to writers like Arthur Hailey for industry-dramas but now have the option of picking up an Indian novel they can relate to. “Middle class Indians define themselves through their careers,” says <strong>Amitabha Bagchi</strong>, IIT professor and author of the novel <strong>Above Average</strong>. “They would naturally enjoy reading stories about the pitfalls of professional life.”</p>
<p>With liberal doses of romance, action and intrigue , some might say corporate novelists depict their work life to be far more exciting than it actually is. But one industry that always lends itself to juicy fiction is hotels. Four decades ago, <strong>Mani Sankar Mukherji </strong>wrote the best-selling Bengali novel <strong>Chowringhee</strong>, about the goings-on in a five star Kolkata hotel as told by a maudlin clerk.</p>
<p>Now Advaita Kala’s written the delightful <strong>Almost Single</strong>, in which her sassy heroine, a guest relations manager in a Delhi hotel, ‘tolerates her job, hates her boss and bonds big-time with her friends.’ The book is replete with hilarious vignettes from hotel work-life and Kala admits she’s drawn heavily on her seven years of experience with the Oberoi group hotels and the Burj Al Arab hotel in Dubai. “My experiences were even more outrageous than what’s in the book. I’ve actually had to tone it down slightly,” she says.</p>
<p>Written between-jobs , Almost Single was accepted by every publisher it was sent to, and Kala finally settled on Harper Collins because she “connected with the editor” . The novel has since sold over 50,000 copies and along with <strong>The Zoya Factor</strong>, it’s set the ‘chick lit’ genre rolling in India. “Men will never admit to reading it,” laughs Kala. “At the Jaipur Literary Festival last month, there were lots of girls who came upto me to get their copy of the book signed, but there was only one guy. And he said it was for his girl friend.”</p>
<p>One man the new-gen corporate novelists owe much to is <strong>Chetan Bhagat</strong>, the author one who opened up the market for this genre. Bhagat’s debut book, <strong>Five Point Someone</strong>, was set in IIT-Delhi , his own alma mater, but since then, he’s moved to writing novels that are based on research rather than personal experience. “I enjoy the research,” he says. “I learnt so much about call centres while writing<strong> One Night</strong> and I used google heavily for cricket history in <strong>The 3 Mistakes Of My Life</strong>.”</p>
<p>Does the Deutsche Banker ever plan to write a novel set in the banking world? “Not while I’m still in the profession,” says Bhagat, categorically. Which leaves the field more or less open to HSBC’s <strong>Ravi Subramanian</strong>, who is currently working on another novel called <strong>Devil In Pinstripes</strong>, which features bank collection agents who drive customers to suicide. “It’s important that I stick to writing about banking,” he says. “I want to establish my corporate novelist pedigree before I get into other kinds of writing.”</p>
<p>And finally, how are the corporates who are the subjects of these novels reacting to the trend? Kala, who now works with Time magazine, says the hotel industry has been hugely supportive of Almost Single, laying out the red carpet wherever she’s had a launch: “The ITC Kakatiya in Hyderabad, ISTA in Bangalore, all hosted my launch events free. The staff there made me feel I’m one of their own.”</p>
<p>At HSBC, Malini Thadani, head of public affairs, was the one entrusted with onerous responsibility of going through the manuscript of <strong>If God Was A Banker</strong> prior to its publication. She wielded the censor’s scissors in six places, cutting out all but one reference to HSBC. “My job was to ensure the book didn’t damage the institution. In the end, we accepted it as an imaginative and entertaining work of fiction,” she says.</p>
<p>Once it was published, however, HSBC sportingly backed the novel, with country head Naina Lal Kidwai launching the book at Crossword. After all the coflict and tension, an altogether happy ending.</p>
<p>Read the article in Economic Times by <a title="Corporate Novels Mixing Business With Pleasure" href="http://m.economictimes.com/PDAET/articleshow/msid-4201919,curpg-3.cms" target="_blank"><strong>Clicking Here</strong></a></p></blockquote>

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		<description><![CDATA[Is Fidelity Outdated? When you ask such a question on Valentine's Day, it tends to grab attention. Anuradha Verma of The Times of India. Pritish Nandy, Suchitra Krishnamurthy, Rupa Ganguly have all shared their views. Columnist and film maker Pritish Nandy says, "Fidelity is not the issue. Has never been. What is at issue is fidelity on demand. You cannot get fidelity on demand in a marriage or any other relationship for that matter. People are faithful when they love someone enough to give up every other option, every other choice. And trust me, despite the contempt with which it is treated by many people today, fidelity is still pretty much common. It is not that impossibility which we think it is."]]></description>
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<p><a title="Times of India by mediocre2008, on Flickr" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/29537061@N05/2948571671/"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3141/2948571671_1692ed2152_o.gif" alt="Times of India" width="222" height="54" /></a>Is Fidelity Outdated? When you ask such a question on Valentine&#8217;s Day, it tends to grab attention. <strong>Anuradha Verma</strong> of <strong>The Times of India </strong>asks this question in today&#8217;s edition of the paper&#8217;s lifestyle section<strong>. </strong>Pritish Nandy, Suchitra Krishnamurthy, Rupa Ganguly have all shared their views. I got to share space with them because the title of my second novel ie <strong>Married But Available <img src='http://abhijitbhaduri.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </strong><span id="more-680"></span></p>
<blockquote><p>Columnist and film maker <strong>Pritish Nandy</strong> says, &#8220;Fidelity is not the issue. Has never been. What is at issue is fidelity on demand. You cannot get fidelity on demand in a marriage or any other relationship for that matter. People are faithful when they love someone enough to give up every other option, every other choice. And trust me, despite the contempt with which it is treated by many people today, fidelity is still pretty much common. It is not that impossibility which we think it is.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<blockquote><p>Actor <strong>Rupa Ganguly</strong>&#8217;s view is that, &#8220;&#8230; due to exposure, people’s expectations have grown. They get dissatisfied, and this leads them to cheat. It’s a fast life, and everybody’s ambitious. Patience levels have dropped and that feeling called love is easily lost in this frenzy. One doesn’t stay in love for very long. However, while in a relationship, people still want to be loyal, and infidelity causes a lot of pain.&#8221;</p>
<p>Actor, singer, writer <strong>Suchitra Krishnamurthy</strong> says, &#8220;As some men get caught, more and more cases come to the forefront. Men can no longer afford to show off their conquests. They now have to hide their affairs. This could well mean fidelity is back as a lasting fashion statement. Infidelity is a reality. There are few relationships untouched by it. Today, women too are experimenting. There is a shift in consciousness.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
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<p>Here is what I had mentioned in the phone interview. Sometimes an edited version does not do justice to the idea.  Tell me what you think of it.</p>
<p>The explosion of social media has created many more shades of relationships. Social media is also redefining conversations that is the basis of all relationships. A relationship forms when conversations begin. Media is making multiple relationships happen. As the conversations evolve, the relationship evolves. Society changes when ever evolving conversations start creating new forms of relationships that have not existed before. Urban India has given a grudging acceptance to live in relationships and divorces which were frowned upon even a few years back. Movies and television serials are getting more comfortable showing a spectrum of human relationships that even a few years ago would have been taboo. Think of films like <strong>DevD </strong>(read more <a title="DevD review at abhijitbhaduri.com" href="http://abhijitbhaduri.com/2009/02/devd/" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a>)<strong> </strong>which is a contemporary take on a love story. Or more recently the film Ishqiya. They depict relationships that exist comfortably in the shades of grey.  Fidelity as a notion has also been evolving from being black and white to shades of grey. The definition of fidelity is understood only when people choose fidelity despite choices being available.  Thoughts are free. We cannot control them. So it is certainly possible to feel attracted to a person. However to act on that thought is a choice people make. It is a bit like this popular painting which at first sight looks like one face but actually has nine different faces built in. Just take a closer look. There is more to it than meets the eye at first glance.</p>
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<p>Read the article <strong>Is Fidelity Outdated </strong>on the Times of India site. <a title="Is Fidelity Outdated" href="http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Is-fidelity-outdated/articleshow/5565512.cms" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a></p>
<p>Review of <strong>DevD</strong> at <a title="DevD" href="http://abhijitbhaduri.com/2009/02/devd/">http://abhijitbhaduri.com/2009/02/devd/</a></p>
<p>Read about the film<strong> Ishqiya</strong> at<a title="Ishqiya" href="http://abhijitbhaduri.com/2010/01/ishqiya/" target="_blank"> http://abhijitbhaduri.com/2010/01/ishqiya/</a></p>
<p>Source of painting: http://www.facedetection.com/facedetection/misc.htm</p>

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		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jan 2010 23:41:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I moved to Bangalore last October. To be interviewed for the city's website mybangalore.com was the equivalent of the neighbors peeking over the fence to check how you are settling in. It just feels good. That is just how I felt when Dhanusha Gokulan spoke to me. To be counted on as a Bangalorean felt good. The conversation was free flowing - from books to my meeting with the Dalai Lama in Dharamshala, India. Just what was it like to meet His Holiness, she had asked. The fact that you do not know what to say to someone of his stature. Seriously, can you think of one really smart question to ask? ]]></description>
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<p>I moved to Bangalore last October. To be interviewed for the city&#8217;s website mybangalore.com was the equivalent of the neighbors peeking over the fence to check how you are settling in. It just feels good. That is just how I felt when <strong>Dhanusha Gokulan</strong> spoke to me. To be counted on as a Bangalorean felt good. The conversation was free flowing &#8211; from books to my meeting with the Dalai Lama in Dharamshala, India. Just what was it like to meet His Holiness, she had asked. The fact that you do not know what to say to someone of his stature. Seriously, can you think of one really smart question to ask the Dalai Lama?   </p>
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<p>Over to &#8220;namma Bengaluru&#8221; or maybe I should just say MyBangalore &#8230;</p>
<blockquote><p>Bhaduri authored the book <strong><a title="Mediocre But Arrogant" href="http://abhijitbhaduri.com/category/mediocre-but-arrogant/synopsis-of-mediocrebutarrogant/" target="_blank">Mediocre But Arrogant</a></strong> which is a story about love and life in a Business School of the protagonist Abbey. The book opened at No 2 on the ndtv.com best-seller list in August 2005 and in September 2006, the book was No. 3 on the weekly best-sellers list of the Crossword Book Store chain in the Fiction category. He followed it up with another book <strong><a title="Harper Collins" href="http://www.harpercollins.co.in/BookDetail.asp?Book_Code=2108" target="_blank">Married But Available</a></strong>. Abhijit Bhaduri is a Human Resources professional who currently works as the Chief Learning Officer for the Wipro Group and is based out of Bangalore. Bhaduri who works full time at <strong><a title="Wipro" href="http://wipro.com/" target="_blank">Wipro</a></strong> said that he shuffles work and writing, by taking time off during the weekends, and tiny breaks.<img class="alignleft" style="border: 1px solid red; margin: 3px; float: right;" src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2584/4250651146_e534e4c925_m.jpg" alt="books@abhijitbhaduri.com" width="240" height="180" /></p>
<p>“Its over these long three day weekends that I work furiously. It depends, because when your working the break is not for more than 6 or 7 days. Besides, travelling is also a very good time to write. Sometimes I should think I should dedicate my books to the airline companies because of the long delays” said Bhaduri.</p>
<p>Speaking on how he decided to start professionally, he said, “I would always write. Letters to friends and family, looking back at it that was probably the initial encouragement. It was serendipity that I ended up writing for mass appeal.”</p>
<p>Bhaduri has an active online presence through blogs, twitter and other social networking sites. “I originally started a blog (see the first blog <strong><a title="Mediocrebutarrogant.blogspot.com" href="http://mediocrebutarrogant.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">here</a></strong>) after publishing the first book because I wanted to get the word out to the people. I wanted to seek support and feedback on all of that because there is only so much you can write in your book”. The author is also a guest writer on various other blogs like the Dudseascrawls, (and <em>tickledbylife.com</em>) and a couple of my own blogs. He also wrote a corporate blog, and after combining the effort put together in all of the other blogs that he decided to create his own website.</p>
<p>The author’s first book <strong>Mediocre But Arrogant</strong> is according to him, about wanting to convey a funny idea of life. “Something like a tongue in cheek concept, it was easy because it’s a book on MBAs. The second book <strong>Married But Available</strong> was a continuation of the relationship. Besides, it was a catchy way of describing the scenario, and it has the ability to tickle people’s curiosity” added Bhaduri.</p>
<p>Speaking about the protagonist <strong>Abbey</strong> in Married But Available in fact in any way was autobiographical he said, “there are elements of me in the character Abbey and the physical aspects of the character is somewhat similar to what I do. But, Abbey is not me. For one, his marriage ends in a disaster! As an HR person there are dilemmas that Abbey has faced, and I’ve faced which are fairly universal experiences. The book has many different characters and there are many things with the character that I can relate with. The first book is set in Jamshedpur and I can write very authentically about the city because I’ve spend time there. If I had to base the book in Bangalore, I would be limited by my own experiences here because some of the elements like the physical aspects would be something that I should be able to write about authentically.” added Bhaduri.</p>
<p>Bhaduri’s books made it to Best Sellers list in the ranks of the likes of Amitav Gosh, Aravind Adiga among others. Reacting to being a part of some of the most prestigious authors in the country, he said, “It’s a tremendous feeling, and its some thing which encouraged me to work harder on my craft. These are people who I’ve always admired, and I don’t think I will have the audacity to compare myself to them. I would love to be able to write like them, but I can only write like myself.”</p>
<p>One of the most defining moments of his life was meeting Tibet’s spiritual head, His Holiness the Dalai Lama. “I love travelling, and I took a chance, and walked into Dharamshala. I was lucky that I happened to meet him. For security purposes, the guards there had taken away my camera, and I told him nobody would ever believe that I was here with you, and he asked his photographer to take a picture of the both of us together. He wrote a small prayer on a photograph of his which I was carrying with me. I must’ve been there for 10- 15 minutes, but you feel like you are in a trance when you meet something like him, you can’t think of anything to ask, and you don’t know what to speak at that point. You feel extremely small and you realise how little you know about the way the world works”</p>
<p>Abhijit is currently working on a non- fiction book, on how people should be hiring. He said, “Its not a handbook necessarily, avoiding the text bookish connotation. The book is about a business concept. For example, to hire a radio jockey’s for a popular breakfast radio show in the city, it requires a lot of skill because it is a super specialized job. Most people who do hiring in their jobs, don’t always know how they are expected to right the best. This book on hiring is fundamentally focused on corporate hiring. Every job is different.” He is also working on a murder mystery.</p></blockquote>

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		<description><![CDATA[And so, Bhaduri’s hero, Abbey passes out of IIM, Jamshedpur, gets into Balwanpur Industries, works at the township, chafes at the fishbowl existence he has to live there out of necessity, marries, gets estranged from, romances a woman or two, and slowly climbs up the corporate ladder. There is no discernible line of wit in the book; at best it is a collection of puerile jokes; the IIM gang comprises the usual suspects; the career climb is predictable, the women all coalesce into one another, come and go without leaving much impact. So what is the leavening factor in this ‘MBA’, a tenuous title at best? It’s lessons learned on the job which Abbey/Bhaduri imparts in a chatty tone that loses no relevance in the telling.

Human Resource/Human Capital Practice/Personnel Management, whatever the term du jour is, it’s a fast moving track, creative and exciting, a track where you think as you run. To that extent, Bhaduri’s case histories with their solutions, make for interesting reading. The way Abbey handles the enforced VRS scheme initiated by the MNC that takes over Balwanpur Industries, is both informative and entertaining.]]></description>
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<p>This year I had received a Valentine&#8217;s Day gift. Only I did not know I had got a gift. My second novel Married But Available had hit the <a title="Married But Available in Bestseller Lists" href="http://www.thehindu.com/mp/2009/02/14/stories/2009021450150200.htm" target="_blank">bestsellers list</a> of <em>The Hindu</em> newspaper &#8211; a leading daily newspaper in English in India. According to the Indian Readership Survey (IRS) 2008 <em>The Hindu</em> is the third most-widely read English newspaper in India (after <em>Times of India</em> and <em>Hindustan Times</em>) with a readership of 5.2 million. I have often wondered if commercial fiction and literary fiction should share a common bestseller list. Is that fair? Then again, can bestseller lists be made for different genres? Probably not. If so, we are back to where we started &#8211; lists are made across genres. So here are the <strong><a title="The Hindu list of Bestsellers" href="http://www.thehindu.com/mp/2009/02/14/stories/2009021450150200.htm" target="_blank">bestsellers </a></strong>in fiction from the Hindu newspaper&#8217;s Vishakhapatnam edition dated 14 Feb 2009 (need I add that I love the people of Vizag for their great literary choice <img src='http://abhijitbhaduri.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> &#8230; see proof below. <span id="more-513"></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; color: #ff0000;"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Bestsellers : Fiction</span></strong></span></p>
<p align="justify"><img class="alignleft" style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 3px; float: left;" src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2452/3979579870_be3a83895f.jpg" alt="Married But Available by Abhijit Bhaduri" width="200" height="253" />1. Twilight by Stephenie Meyer – Atom Rs. 299</p>
<p>2. Slumdog Millionaire by Vikas Swarup – Black Swan Rs. 268</p>
<p>3. The Associate by John Grisham – Arrow Rs. 229</p>
<p>4. <strong><a title="Buy Married But Available" href="http://www.harpercollins.co.in/BookDetail.asp?Book_Code=2108" target="_blank">Married but Available</a></strong> by Abhijit Bhaduri – Harper Rs. 195</p>
<p>5. The Diary Of A Social Butterfly by Moni Mohsin – Random House Rs. 195</p>
<p>6. In Other Rooms, Other Wonders by Daniyal Mueenuddin- Random House Rs. 395</p>
<p>7. The Murder Exchange by Simon Kernick – Corgi Rs. 262</p>
<p>8. Amazing Grace by Danielle Steel &#8211; Corgi Rs. 229</p>
<p>9. Lady Killer by Lisa Scottoline – Harper Rs. 282</p>
<p>10. Opium Clerk by Kunal Basu – HarperCollins India Rs. 295</p>
<p><strong></strong><strong><a title="The Hindu Review of Married But Available Dated 4 Oct 09" href="http://www.hindu.com/lr/2009/10/04/stories/2009100450050200.htm" target="_blank">The Hindu</a></strong> reviewed my novel Married But Available in todays literary supplement. I get a little worried about the book being featured in a literary review. I think there is a thin dividing line between literary fiction and commercial fiction. I believe Married But Available and the first novel Mediocre But Arrogant are both mass market fiction with no literary pretensions or capabilities. Here is the review by Sheila Kumar in The Hindu newspaper of 4th Oct 2009:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Abhijit Bhaduri follows up his first novel <em>Mediocre But Arrogant </em>with this ‘MBA’ and warns that another MBA (Middle-Aged But Active) may yet be in the offing. Chetan Bhagat opened some kind of floodgates and this genre (IIT lit? MBA lit?) is what the waters are bringing in.</p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; color: #ff0000;">Plain language </span></p>
<p align="justify">Bhaduri gets off to a sluggish, even disjointed start, then gets into his groove gradually. His groove is his book’s groove, of course, and it’s a story of a management grad, his wine, women, song and career, not necessarily in that order. Bhaduri uses plain, unvarnished, unpretentious if unstylised language, communicating straight to the reader and infuses his tale with a strong autobiographical tone. While the book, the story, could have done with some amount of literary flourish, this, too, is literature, as the aforementioned Chetan B has shown us.</p>
<p>And so, Bhaduri’s hero, Abbey passes out of IIM, Jamshedpur, gets into Balwanpur Industries, works at the township, chafes at the fishbowl existence he has to live there out of necessity, marries, gets estranged from, romances a woman or two, and slowly climbs up the corporate ladder. There is no discernible line of wit in the book; at best it is a collection of puerile jokes; the IIM gang comprises the usual suspects; the career climb is predictable, the women all coalesce into one another, come and go without leaving much impact. So what is the leavening factor in this ‘MBA’, a tenuous title at best? It’s lessons learned on the job which Abbey/Bhaduri imparts in a chatty tone that loses no relevance in the telling.</p>
<p>Human Resource/Human Capital Practice/Personnel Management, whatever the term du jour is, it’s a fast moving track, creative and exciting, a track where you think as you run. To that extent, Bhaduri’s case histories with their solutions, make for interesting reading. The way Abbey handles the enforced VRS scheme initiated by the MNC that takes over Balwanpur Industries, is both informative and entertaining.</p>
<p><span style="font-size: small; color: #ff0000;">Abrupt end </span></p>
<p align="justify">And then, at the end of the book, Bhaduri seems to revert to type… he ends as he begins, i.e., with a jerky conclusion, a needless death and an abrupt dropping of curtain. Who knows, maybe he’ll rectify this in his third MBA. Stranger things have been known to happen.&#8221;</p>
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<p align="justify">View a hi-resolution image of the cover of <strong><a title="Cover of Married But Available" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/abhijitbhaduri/2868121922/sizes/o/" target="_blank">Married But Available</a></strong> designed by Shuka Jain</p>

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